Wednesday, September 30, 2009


When I was growing up, I was forced to be responsible. Whether I liked it or not. I watched my sisters, I made dinner, I did my homework.

When I came home at 9:05, instead of 9:00, I was grounded for five days. One day per minute late. It was like that.

Now, as an adult, I still feel very responsible for everyone. I feel responsible to take care of my sisters finances if they need help. I feel responsible to make sure my Aana is comfortable. I feel responsible for a lot of things, that I probably shouldn't feel that way about.

I asked the simple question to my Facebook Friends: What does responsibility mean to you?

Serious responses came back. Witty responses. And the occasional smarty pants one was posted as well.

From the responses, you could tell who was a mother, and who felt responsible for making the lives of their children better. You could tell who was still in college, and who was single. You could almost peek into the lives of the responses and see what was going on.

From a woman who is fighting for custody of her children: "Taking care of my family and kids and making sure they have everything they need or want to do stuff with out even being asked or like paying my bills!! raise my kids in a safe environment.making sure there is food in the house.and making sure my kids are happy with everything they do." Deep man...deep.

From a pastor: "Taking charge of who you are, what you're doing, and why you are doing what ever it is you're doing..."

From a friend: "Taking Claim: Owning our own in whatever we do (with our actions) or who ever we have in our lives (family)."

From a fellow smart-ass: "Telling the baby daddy!" (is there something you're not telling us?!)

Dean recently asked Koy what responsibility meant to him after he forgot to clean his brand new 12 guage shotgun after an evening of duck hunting.

Koy said, "always cleaning your guns after you go hunting..."

If I had asked him that same question a few days ago, after finding old homework that hadn't been turned in, he would have said something to the effect of turning in your homework.

As for me...I really think responsibility is simply not to make excuses for doing or not doing something, and taking care of what you know needs to be taken done. This philosophy could work at home, at work, at church, at AA, at the store, etc.

Admit your mistakes. Move on.

Forgive, but don't forget. Move on.

Take everything in stride. Move on!

Get what I'm saying!?

I know lots of things need to happen at my house, I know how much I still need to sew for the winter, I know which bills could be paid off with the dividend's coming next week. A responsible person would take care of that. As for me...I think I smell a trip to Disneyland!? ;)


gpc said...

Wow. I have been responsible my whole life but I couldn't have explained it nearly as well as you did. (I'm itching for that Disneyland trip, too! lol)

Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to all the young people in our Region trying to make a difference, not to be dependant on drugs or alcohol to cope with life after having a hard childhood such as ours have been in the Bush. May God keep blessing you and keeping your family well and safe.